I'm a psycho?

Today I was called a psycho by a guy whom i actually liked quite a lot and he also asked me if I had taken my meds and was also told by him to take my meds before responding, which I did not do (respond to those insults), as I know I am not a psycho and I do not feel ashamed having ADD and also do not see it as a reason to getting belittled or abused by someone.

Just now, i read this on connect.additudemag.com:

ADD Inattentive-Type wife married to Bipolar needs help

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I’ll give it a shot. *smile*

I have ADD inattentive-type and my husband is Bipolar. We’ve been married for 21yrs. But it’s a constant uphill battle. For many years, I thought the problems we had stemmed from his Bipolar. For example, he goes on and on asking why I do the things I do.. . ranting for hours about how stupid I am and why what was I thinking?
But from reading some of the posts in this group, I think it’s me. I guess I would drive anyone crazy. . . .
I just want to inform the people that are married to people like me, to please try to be a little patient and understand we’re not this way on purpose. By the time, you’ve started ranting at us about why we did or didn’t do something, we’ve already said worse things to ourselves. That’s why we close up and don’t respond.
We didn’t set out to make your lives miserable. We think and do things different from other people. It doesn’t make us stupid, lazy, or crazy—just different.

And one of the answers was:

Calling anyone “stupid” is verbal abuse.  No matter what the cause, bi-polar or ADD or anything, this behavior is not excusable.  Please set your limits and inform your spouse of those boundaries.  When you have reached your limit, take action. See a marriage counselor or attorney.  Do not stay in an abusive situation.  It doesn;t help either you or your husband.

So Thank God that guy called me a psycho before marriage and not after! I think what people with AD(H)D need to learn is to have more self-esteem and to realize that we are not ill and not less valuable to society, family etc. than people who do not have AD(H)D. Maybe there are some things that we cannot do as well as others, but therefore there are things that we can handle much much better than them :) we should focus more on what we can, than on what we can't!